In honor of Father's Day, I thought I'd share some invaluable advice my uncle gave me just a few months ago. It went something like this...
"Focus on your life; build your career and get what you want out of life."
Sounds simple enough doesn't it? But I've literally been replaying those words over and over in my head. If I'm totally honest, at first, I thought "pffff, that doesn't apply to me," I'm all about pursuing your dreams and making yourself happy regardless of your relationship status. But sometimes, when you listen to people long enough, it starts to sink in and you find yourself getting sucked into doing things that you never thought you'd be doing. Its safe to say those words were not only a gentle reminder, but were quite the wake up call.
So whether this is a gentle reminder for you or a wake up call, I would at least give it a little thought.
Now don't get me wrong, I believe companionship is a great thing and the right person, amongst other things, will empower you to follow your dreams. But with or without the right person, it is very easy, especially for us women, to lose focus in obsessing over details surrounding companionship from meeting someone, to trying to figure out if they're 'the one', to the jigsaw puzzle that is dating, to the proposal <love that movie by the way>, the wedding...you name it.
But there's so much more to life~new things to try, places to see, more of yourself to discover, dreams to fulfill, degrees to get <even though I'm so done after this Master's>...whatever happiness means to you~~that you would be doing yourself an injustice by relying on someone to make you happy. Coz if you do, when they fall short, and fall short they will, then what? Or if there's no 'someone', are you just supposed to be miserable and exist between work and your couch till that 'someone' comes knocking?
If the dead horse hasn't been beaten enough already <and I mean that metaphorically PETA activists>, indulge me for a little while longer.
Life is all about balance, but it all begins with you being in the right state of mind. Find happiness and fulfillment in life, not in someone else, not for someone else, but rather, for yourself, by yourself. And as a spillover, people in your life and those you come across will benefit from the best version of you. Quit putting your life on hold or sitting by the phone waiting for a call or text. Get out there and do you boo!
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