Prince Charming set out to find the one whose foot would fit perfectly in Cinderella’s missing glass slipper.
And no matter how many, probably really great girls, tried to force their foot into the shoe, he never lowered his standards or told himself, "that fits well enough, it doesn't have to be perfect". Instead he kept searching until he found the one whose foot fit slid right into the shoe. I know its a fairy tale but doesn't it sound familiar?
As women sometimes we meet a guy and try so hard to fit into his life, his plans, his interests, his vision for his life. And we lose ourselves, our purpose, our interests and dreams, to focus on "making it work" no matter the cost.
And we get ourselves into, and stay in these situations because we’re trying to be "ride-or-die" or because we hear all the time how there’s less men than women and its slim pickings out here, or because of our biological clock.
This is not to say that there won't be compromises. Sometimes the shoe will be a bit snug and after wearing it for a while, you will break it in. But even then, it'll take work on both sides--the foot will adjust to the shoe and likewise the shoe to the foot.
But if you're the only one doing the work; if you're the one who is trying to fit into his lifestyle, and he is not bringing you in, making adjustments as well, and considering your future and dreams, then maybe that's not the right fit.
I'd even venture to throw into the mix that maybe in these situations that are bending us out of shape, maybe our self-worth is not where it needs to be. Because it seems to me that if you value yourself, you will realize you have a lot to offer not only in a relationship but to the world, and accepting anything less that something that allows you to be what God has called you to be, or a situation that brings you down, will not be an option.